Breakups are always stressful and weigh us down. Our well-meaning friends warn us not to rush into a new relationship, especially if the person looks a lot like our ex.
“How can someone
forget their ex so quickly?!”
Society has stigmatized those who decide
to move on too quickly. However, there is evidence that moving forward can save
us from the dark mood and sadness. So why does the stigma still exist? How do
we start a new relationship? And is it risky to get into a new relationship
with someone who looks a lot like our ex?
For most people, it is normal to wait
about 5 months before giving a new romantic relationship a chance, and
according to most of them, hasty affairs do not last long. However, this is
just an opinion. The data from the studies show something completely different.
She studied people who had recently broken up with their partner and started a
new relationship. They reported higher self-esteem, better general well-being
and tone, and lower anxiety. The reason lies in the fact that their commitment
status is almost continuous, which helps them continue to live without much
stress and smoothly transition from one relationship to another.
Not everything is so rosy, however.
People who quickly find a new romantic partner are those who felt insecure with
their previous one. It may sound contradictory that insecure people have high
self-esteem, but it is about the insecurity that they experience towards the
end of a relationship. Most of us can sense when a relationship with a person
is not going well and sooner or later it will end. High self-esteem also has
its explanation - as soon as they find a new partner, they feel better and more
confident.
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