When you lose a loved one

     When you lose a loved one, life doesn't go back to its old place. There's no such moment when you say: "Okay, I survived it" - and the pain disappears like after a rain. Rather, you start living in a new silence. With the same memories, but with a completely different feeling for the world.

     You get up in the morning, open the window, do your usual things. And just when you think you'll get through the day normally, your gaze falls on the empty chair. Or on the cup that no one uses anymore. Or on the place on the sofa where there used to be a voice, warmth, presence, hug. And then you understand: absence can also be very vivid.

     They say that time heals. But it's not quite like that. Time doesn't bring a person back. It doesn't erase their smell from memory. It doesn't erase the way they laughed. It only teaches the pain not to scream all the time. It becomes quieter, but it remains. Sometimes it is awakened by a song, a street, a scent, a random sentence - and it hits you again where you thought you had already healed.

     But this is not weakness. This is proof that you have truly loved. Because true love does not disappear like an object that is no longer needed. It remains in the photos, in the habits, in the memories, in that inner conversation that you continue to have with the person you can no longer hug.

     You have the right to grieve. You have the right to cry, even if others already expect you to be "better". You also have the right to be silent when there are no words for such emptiness. And when it becomes unbearable, look up. Sometimes the thought that someone from heaven still hears you is the only light that reaches you.

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