Nowadays, social networks are an integral part of our love life, which is not always a good thing. We are increasingly using chats instead of using classic phone conversations. We are even replacing live meetings with video calls. However, as bad as it may sound, we have to get used to the peculiarities of the times we live in. So - why does he never text you first, but when you do, he replies immediately.
We know that when we are under the influence of emotions and the desire to be with a certain person, our realistic assessment of the situation between us is often distorted. It is generally accepted that the lack of initiative on the part of a man is not a good sign, but this is not always a correct perception. Does the fact that he does not seek you out first and does not shower you with attention unless you seek him out mean that he is not interested and is obsessed with someone else? Not really.
Yes, it is difficult for women to make the first move and everyone would prefer the initiative to come from a man. You are used to hearing that if he wanted to reach out to you, he would, but this does not apply in every case and is not a rule without exceptions. Here are 10 reasons why he does not reach out to you, but when you text him, it seems like that is all he has been waiting for:
∎ He is not sure enough about his and your feelings
Men are not as brave as you think they should be when they are not sure about the feelings and intentions of the person on the other side. If you have not clearly stated your desire for intimacy and have not sent direct signals that you want to continue your relationship, then he will be withdrawn and very careful. It is entirely possible that he will even ignore you if he has gone through a traumatic period such as a breakup or divorce and is not sure if he is ready for a new relationship.
∎ His bad experience or your abrupt behavior
It is entirely possible that in your desire to make things happen faster, you said or did something that scared him. Men do not like to be pressured when the relationship is in its initial period. If they feel even the slightest sign of pressure from you, this can make them not seek you out anymore. As we have already mentioned, the fault may not be yours, but the man's bitter experience. In case you found out about a traumatic event in his life, just step back and do it until you have fallen in love.
∎ He does not trust you or is afraid that you will hurt him
If a man feels that you tend to tell your close friends every experience of yours down to the smallest detail, he will back off. Who would want to be the subject of gossip? Think about whether you have said something that has hurt him. Men are sensitive when it comes to women's evaluation. If you have made him feel not good enough, he will simply disappear.
∎ He has no serious intentions
And the reason is not in you, but in the period of life that the man is in. Sometimes gentlemen do not want to take responsibility and commitments, only to unload themselves from them. In any case, however, he is obliged to tell you, if he does not, then you have not missed a man worth millions.
∎ He is offended
Or upset, disagrees with you about something and shows it to you with his silence. He wants to show you his independence and remind you that it is not a problem to distance himself from you. In this case, your initiative has a positive effect and it is good to start a conversation directly on the topic.
∎ There are other women around him and he does not have to
look for any
Yes, there are such men who, like girls, simply enjoy the attention of others because they receive it. This type can make you constantly wonder if you are good enough, if you are worthy of him and keep you in the dark about his feelings. Run away - such a man does not deserve any woman.
∎ He simply cannot refuse
In his efforts not to offend you, a man may always answer you, because of his upbringing, but without realizing that in this way he sends you mixed signals. Yes, he does not want to lose you as an option, but he is not your man, the fault - too. Do yourself a favor and do not look for him, you deserve much more.
∎ And yet - he may be committed
But deliberately hiding it because he is not happy or needs entertainment. In this case, he will keep his distance from you, but in no case will he want to lose you. He will be happy to answer you, he may even offer you a date and unforgettable nights, but that's it.
∎ Oh, times. Oh, standards
The lack of male initiative is not a rare phenomenon nowadays and the mistake of women is that they already accept it as something normal and are increasingly used to being the active party. Relationships built on this basis will never bring you anything good. Go out and look for a real man.
∎ Shame on him
Yes, there are such men, no matter how unusual it may sound.
He may watch you with admiration, he may even write on his forehead how much he
likes you. He may show it with involuntary actions, but the shame of seeking
you out and declaring his desires for you in ace, he can simply stop
everything. In this situation, your activity is perceived by him as a blessing,
and as soon as he relaxes a little and feels safe, you will receive his real,
male initiative.
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